This platform is intended to be a facilitated space, continue reading to understand what this means here.
We are going to actively ensure that the space is respectful for all participating members, while still enabling the possibility for constructive dialog and freedom of expression. This means that members have to be mindful and respectful that they are in a community of diverse individuals, so they should be respectful while communicating their opinion to others.
At the same time, when we are reading another person’s opinion, we have to be flexible and accepting that each person has their own way of viewing the world and expressing themselves. We want to help people have the freedom of expression without having to think a million times if they may be offending someone.
Language is the greatest barrier to genuine understanding.
We often think and believe that we understand what the other person is saying, whereas in reality we only interpret what the other person is saying through our subjective filters and understand what we want to, rather than what the other may have intended.
Keeping this in mind, if we find something offensive, we do not need to attack and defend with an instant reaction. This space is for people to develop their consciousness. This means each person involved has a chance to grow. This can be highly challenging with many contrasting individuals interacting. And this is why we are have the concept of facilitated spaces.
You can always reach out to a facilitator if you feel mediation is required. You can also reach out if you feel triggered by something expressed by a member.
Someone may also intervene if a situation is becoming polarized. When there are misunderstandings and breakdowns in communication, such as having arguments and conflicts, a trained and skilled facilitator helps to bridge the gap by helping two sides understand each other. They act as a translator of the subtle things that are not being communicated with the intent of developing a deeper understanding.
And when such facilitation takes place, usually the shadows of both sides get exposed – meaning that each side that thinks they are “right” also gets to see other parts they were unable to see about themselves. We are often mirroring each other without realizing it and this is the basis of learning about your shadow.
Because of the nature of the personal shadow, unless we are trained shadow hunters, it is nearly impossible to see ourselves and our reflections in others. We are programmed to look outside rather than reflect inside. Many people tend to take on righteous, extremist, and polarized stands. And when this happens, we become further rooted in our extreme viewpoints which usually originate in our shadow.
A facilitator’s job is to help bring both sides back to the center of themselves by bringing clarity to the unseen underlying factors.
By focusing on creating facilitated spaces, we aim to inculcate a sense of respect and understanding in all communication that takes place. Our intention is to embrace our diversity and learn from the rich mix of perspectives that each member brings to this space.